Kandi Burruss' mom comes between her and fiance Todd Tucker.

on Dec 2, 2013 - The Dish0

Kandi Burruss has been having a tough time with her mother Joyce when it comes to planning her wedding to fiancé Todd, and it looks like last night's episode of The Real Housewives of Atlanta was the final nail in the coffin for those looking to give Kandi's overbearing mama the benefit of a doubt.

We've watched Joyce diss Kandi's engagement ring, and she's been keeping a stern eye on Todd since the day she met him. Kandi has blamed Wendy Williams for putting the ideas in Joyce's head about Todd taking advantage of Kandi, and last night, RHOA fans were pretty unanimous when it came to siding with Kandi about Joyce's overprotective ways. In fact, fans were so outspoken about #MamaJoyce that it became a trending topic on Twitter.

The consensus according fans? Kandi needs to step up and tell Mama Joyce to back down if she wants her engagement to turn into a happy marriage. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Some fans brought up the very good (and hilarious, below) point that Kandi could be looking at a very lonely, loveless life if she keeps putting up with her mom's outbursts. 

 

 

 

 

And the dig about Todd's engagement ring for Kandi? Plenty found fault with Joyce's attitude and stressed that it's the sentiment, not the size of the rock, that matters when it comes to finding the perfect diamond.

 

 

How do you feel about Mama Joyce and her concerns for Kandi's engagement? Is she out of line or merely protecting her daughter? Share your opinion in the comments.

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128 comments
BravoAddict513
BravoAddict513

I understand Mama Joyce's concern for her daughter, my mom tends to be overbearing too-- single moms... it comes with the territory. However, her delivery is so poor and disrespectful she loses all credibility. Also, Mama Joyce should not be talking about Todd to Kandi's daughter, employees etc. Let's get Mama Joyce on Millionaire Matchmaker! Find this woman a man to occupy herself!!

Syracuse2012
Syracuse2012

Your mother doesn't belong at the head of the table......during the dinner episode.....I would never allow my mother to disrespect my fiancé the way she did Todd.....Kandi, you need to put your foot down or you'll be in for a very long life ALONE!

Syracuse2012
Syracuse2012

Kandi, your aunts and mother are disgusting. You need to put on your BIG GIRL PANTIES and set them straight. You need to stand up for Todd.....period. There is no choosing sides.....you need to stick up for TODD and YOU. With your mother trying to play your daughter against him, she needs her head examined. She is a evil nasty person, just like the aunts....counseling will not help, don't waste your time....

angascious
angascious

I have always like Mama Joyce, but seeing the way she is treating Todd and Kandis friends is just appalling. Kandi, I hope for your happiness that you can lay down the law to Mama and make her understand that she has to respect your decisions. She doesn't have to like your choices, but she DOES need to respect them and respect Todd and your friends. You will never have love in your life if you continue to let her behave in the way that she is now.

steJustme
steJustme

Kandi , need to have Kandi's life with mama, Kandi's life with her child and Kandi's llfe with her man. Joyce needs to get her own lif outside of Kandi and Kandi's money. Really mama get a grip and let your daughter be happy. Kandi also needs to stop all the baby talk and let mama know she is a woman.

cindy1963
cindy1963

Kandi,

 I have always loved you because you have accomplished a lot in your life. You should be very proud of yourself and your mother should feel such pride in her daughter and she's not doing that. I'm sorry Kandi, I normally respect my elders but your mother is acting ridiculous! I couldn't believe the way she was acting while you were trying to try on dresses and then your 2 aunts got involved and I agree with your friend Kwame when he said it was like they were a "gang." Your mother has been acting all weird ever since you were looking for a new house, she wanted a new home because it seems that she has become very "materialistic." You have real MONEY and you are one of the most down-to-earth people I have seen. What happened to your mother? I really don't like the person she has become, it really makes her look "ugly!" She should just want her daughter to be happy and that's all that matters but it seems like her and your aunts are totally against Todd. They got on Carmon and she wasn't even doing anything, so I can understand why Carmon felt the need to defend herself. In life, we all have to do and make decisions that sometimes people don't agree with but that is how we learn, I know she's your mother and in her mind she is trying to look out for your best interest but she's just doing it the wrong way! Momma Joyce has really changed and the person she has become is NOT COOL !! I think you should do something because no matter what....KANDI, IT'S YOUR LIFE, NOT YOUR MOTHER'S!!! Sorry, that's my opinion.

Kim20
Kim20

Kandi, thanks for clarifying your position.  I see you and Kim at opposite ends of the spectrum but with similar qualities; Kim treated her mother and aunt like animals and you allow your mother to treat you like an animal. GROSS!

alovera
alovera

You and your Mom have a severe case of co-dependency. It's all about CONTROL and DENIAL. Please Kandi, do yourself a favor and educate yourself about the dynamics of co-dependency and start taking control of your life. You are in such a state of denial about what's going on that it's going to take some work, but if you don't do something about this you can be sure things will NEVER change. You may think you are in control of your life but you are far from it to allow her to say and do the things she does towards the other people in your life who you care about. Since you're so much in denial, you don't even know what's going on. Believe everyone around you who's telling you YOUR MOM IS OUT OF LINE. It's time to make boundaries and stick to them. There are plenty of books on this subject, so get to reading.

REDDD
REDDD

Mama Joyce even if I didn't like the man my daughter was going to marry, I  would never hurt her the way you are hurting Kandi on national tv for all to see and talk about. Kandi is a respected, beautiful and intelligent young woman that is making millions on her own and she respects you in every way possible and yet you don't know how to return t compliment.. Every man she has had you have manage to cause so much confusion until you break them up, and after you accomplish that you go on and live your life.

Kandi I truly hope you just take a chance and get married after all it's that's what your daughter said to do? And believe it are not your Mom and the rest of your family will get over themselves. Your Mom and her sisters have live their lives and loved who they wanted to love, it's your time now.  This man seems to truly love you and he has tried very hard to get alone with your Mom but that doesn't seem to be what she wants. You also need to teach your Mom how to respect your soon to be husband, especially in your home or she needs to be ask to leave and you don't have to curse her out to do it, just stand up to her. I wish you well Kandi.  

MzzMone72
MzzMone72

I know how Kandi feel cuz my mom is similar to her mom. My advice to Kandi is keep ur distance from ur mom for awhile. Not saying don't go see her but keep ur household private. Don't let her know what's going on and only spend time with her like on a lunch date or running a quick errand for her. She need to let you go and I know it's hard for you Kandi but Mom has to learn that you need space so you can grow as a Wife. She will NEVER like no one you bring home because she is very protective of her girl and that's cool for her but not you. Maybe introduce her to someone that can ease her mind off you. Nothing is going to work but distance because I can tell no matter what you say mom is going to have it her way But its you marriage, you should be happy, you are a mature woman now so you have to figure out how to tell your mom to take a seat and let you learn from your experiences without her interference and without hurting her feelings or taking her shoe off on you.

ktrent
ktrent

Kandi...1st time I have ever written on 1 of these blogs.  I have 2 say I am sorry about your Mother & the way she acts.  I, too, have a Mother that is def hard 2 deal with.  She is quick to find fault in others & very opinionated in how they should act & what they should do.  I find it ironic when they didn't do such a fantastic job conducting their own lives but yet have all the advice in the world for us.  It really is sad & after watching the last couple of episodes I find them so similar that it is sad to watch.  I am mother of 3 & whether I agree with their decisions or not...I would never act like that.  Truth be known....she isn't a bit sorry for it either cause she was right & justified in her mind.   There came a time in mine & my sisters lives that we had to stay away from our Mom cause she was only toxic for us, our marriage & our children.  We saw a glimpse of her drawing ur daughter in2 her drama & that is where you should put your foot down.  I understand that they def have a chemical imbalance cause NO ONE would want to act like that on purpose or in their right minds.  To take their shoe off in a public place to hit some1...esp while their daughter is trying on wedding dresses is crazy.  That should have been 1 of your happiest days & she ruined it for you.  No matter how much you want 2 defend her...it isn't right.  As children, we become accustomed to their behavior but it still is a crazy way to act.  I so appreciate that no matter what you want to respect your Mom but there has to come a time that enough is enough......if not for yourself but for your daughter & Todd.  You have a right to be happy & if Todd is that person then you need to let your Mom go back to the house you gave her & let her be by herself in her own misery.  Just because she is so unhappy doesn't give her right to interfere in your happiness.  You said that you know how to deal with her but you really don't.  For the most part, we don't deal.....we endure.  It took me a long time to learn this but we do not have an obligation to endure their crazy antics.  We can love them from a distance if they choose to make our lives miserable.  And they do when they don't agree with our decisions.  She does not have the right & you have your obligations to your daughter, Todd & your own happiness.  And if she can't accept that then I would hope you would live your life by your own heart & faith, anyway.  And not allow her to bring her negativity into all those around you. My heart broke for you the last couple of episodes.  I know how you feel to have your Mother act like that when all you want is their support.  Sometimes they are just not mentally capable of giving it & as hard it is...we have to learn to move forward with our lives & decisions.  God Bless

Josie57
Josie57

Kandi, doubt you will read this, however, I need to add to my prior comment just in case you do read it. Your mom is your mom, yes there is a certain amount of respect that you owe her. Your mom also needs to respect your relationships, especially with Todd and friends. I feel she has crossed the line. You will never be happy and your relationship is doomed unless you take your control back, I was married for many years to someone who had a similar type of mom, my partner would tell me to let it go, ignore it. Yet the mother continued her manipulation and power over my partner. Never wanting to anger her, telling me you don't know her the way I do, well after several years of mom coming first and my feelings being put aside, we divorced. Very sad. And even sadder there was a child involved. I believe my mother in law felt threatened and did her best to break it up. I believe your mom will do the same, unless you put her in her place. If you don't, then don't get married because Todd isn't going to put up with it.

MelindaJ
MelindaJ

Tonight's episode where Kandi was trying on wedding gowns should be the LAST STRAW with her mother.  Obviously her mother does not care at all about Kandi the woman.  Joyce acted like a common hood rat...taking her shoes off to fight in a nice bridal salon... c'mon...   She's bound and determined to ruin every last bit of Kandi's happiness.  This should have been a joyous day and any good mother would've protected that happiness.  Since K & Tod are doing a pre-nup... what's the money issue???  Tod is a good man.  Joyce is jealous of Kandi's fiancé AND friends and tries to undermine those relationships by lying and doing & saying horrible things.  I think JOYCE wants Kandi's money & undivided attention.  Kandi needs to cut her out of her life.  Period.  Joyce is a vicious, horrible person and  shameful mother.

 

katiedidmomsaid
katiedidmomsaid

I feel so sorry for Kandi. She is the best person on that show and I don't understand how that's possible with her mama acting like that. I think Kandi and her mam need counseling because Kandi needs to learn how to disagree with her mom and her mom needs to learn how to respect Kandi's decision. Frankly, it just seems Joyce doesn't want anyone but herself getting to use any of Kandi's money.

honeybabysugarbaby
honeybabysugarbaby

And one MORE thing about mama Joyce ! Saying that Kandis home girl is hanging out with her to wear her old weave ??? LOL =0 ................ Wow Mama Joyce . Seriously ???

honeybabysugarbaby
honeybabysugarbaby

You have got to be kidding mama Joyce....... No . No . No . Please Kandi stop listening to your mother or entertaining her bad behavior ! She is acting like a spoiled teenager ! And SHE is the one coming across as materialistic and a straight Gold Digger !!!!! I know she's your mama but honey boom you need to live your life because this shit your mama is pulling on you is OUT.. OF.. LINE ! ! ! You will regret NOT standing up to her and telling her to Fah Get A Bout It .

mello48
mello48

just saw next weeks preview and you, Kandi were letting kenya have it....now its time to standup to your mom...there is no need for disrespect, but this behavior will continue if you don't let her know that she cannot control your love life...your mom is probably thinking the house is the last she will get from you with todd around...everyone has to have that talk with the parents at times and you have procrastinated  much too long.

Curiously
Curiously

#team mama joyce... they kept her from moving in that second home on the property!!!   YOU PEOPLE HAVE IT ALL WRONG.. KANDI BETTER LISTEN T O HER MOTHER. SHE WILL BE IN THE SAME PLACE USHER IS.....

rhonda17
rhonda17

Still feeling some kind of way about Kandi's ignorant mother....sorry girl, but momma joyce (I used small letter's for a reason) needs to see a shrink, take her meds, get a damn job and a damn life. She is pathetic!!!!! A grown woman acting like a damn fool at the bridal boutique. There was no way she was going to let Kandi have any joy picking out her gown. Todd, baby, cut your loses and run. She's not worth it. The momma drama will NEVER END!!!

lawgirl2sassy
lawgirl2sassy

Kandi.....there has to be a line drawn at this point...you can put your mother in her place when she is disrespecting everyone in your life. I'm sorry, SHE is the one worried about your money.

rhonda17
rhonda17

OMG....Watching this evening's show was ugly. Kandi, I fee sorry for you. Your mother's behavior is beyond ignorant, ghetto, and inappropriate. Be clear, YOUR MOTHER DOES NOT WANT ANYONE AROUND YOU, SHE DOES NOT WANT YOU TO GET MARRIED. SHE IS A MISERABLE, LONELY, OLD, DRIED UP WOMAN. And you are a fool to even include her in you wedding plans. Truthfully I hope Todd moves on. No one needs that foolishness. Stop wasting his time. Stay alone like your mammy, and I say mammy for a reason. Cause she aint ish!!!! Yeah, that's right, I SAID IT.

littlemp
littlemp

I think tonight show was really bad.  Kandi you have to put a stop to Momma Joyce or you will not have any friends or future husband.  You have to speak up, you cannot let your mother run your life.  If you do you will be alone forever.  I think your mother feels if you marry Todd that would take money from her.  If you do a prenup that would be fine. Please do what right in your heart, you are a beautiful woman do not let your mom run your life.  I wish you the very best in your future.

jillnothinglayre@yahoo.com
jillnothinglayre@yahoo.com

Mama Joyce is clearly the problem....the way she showed her colors tonight was unacceptable to me.....she is disrespecting Kandi and Todd....and it seems to me that she doesn't want anyone in Kandi's life because she doesn't want to share Kandi's money with anyone else.

Molbo
Molbo

Kandi, YOU cannot stop your mother and/or your aunts from saying or doing anything.  But, you CAN stand up for yourself and for your relationship.  Your mother is BEYOND out of line.  I wouldn't put up with her behavior for one more SECOND.  You should've asked her to leave the bridal fitting.  Your cousin or the young lady your Mom was attacking got is exactly right.  Your Mom is little more than a thug with a big, ugly mouth that spews nothing but negativity and hate because SHE CANNOT CONTROL YOU.  When are you going to step up ON CAMERA and tell her to just stop or get out?  When?

carole.norrell
carole.norrell

Sorry Kandi  Your mother is totally wrong she needs to but out and stop being so awful, It was totally discussing how she acted not only to Todd and how she acted when you were trying on your wedding dress, this was your moment and she should act like your mother and not like some street women. 

fluffie
fluffie

I have a good radar on men, and Todd is far from "slick"  He really loves Kandi, otherwise he wouldn't try to hard to make it work with her mama.  Just looking at his face when she attacked him at that dinner table, and Kandi just calmly left the room for him to deal with her alone.  I felt so bad for him.  Kandi, when you marry someone, he needs to be number 1 (number 2 after Riley), and you need to show that to your mom, that you are a united front.  Once she knows that, she will shut up.  But she is acting like republicans trying to stop Obamacare, as long as she messes up Kandis husband, AND friends, she may think that its too hard, and just throw in the towel.  I know I would if I were Todd, I couldn't take that abuse.  And for Kandi to just tell him and her friend that she couldn't say anything to her mama was heartbreaking for them.  You will be alone Kandi, sorry to say you need to grow a pair

DonnaWalsh
DonnaWalsh

Wow Kandi, you mother walked into yours and Todd’s home last week and really disrespected Todd and you, and you said nothing. This week your mom walked in and she started in with Carmen. Your mama said that she did not want you to marry Todd, and now she has convince your aunt’s to not want you to marry Todd. Kandi I always felt you were real, and I must say your mother was a complete embarrassment tonight; she performed for the cameras tonight. Your mother deserves an Oscar for her performance.

Kandi if you really want to get marry you need to make a stand for the man you love or you might just lose him. Who do you want to marry Todd or your family? Do what Cynthia did to her mother, and sister make a stand, put on your grown woman panties and make a stand. Or lose it all.

CaliCorvette
CaliCorvette

Joyce doesn't deserve the title "momma".....she's a nasty, bitchy, critical old tyrant who's living off her daughter, yet points fingers and accuses everyone else of using Kandi. As for Kandi....you can sit around saying you know how to ignore and "handle" your mom, girlfriend, but the truth is we have YET to see you tell your mom to show YOU some respect and to sit down and shut the hell up. Keep it up, and you'll be old, bitter, and alone like your momma wants....and just think....how would you like Riley to be as browbeaten as you are by your own mother? Sprout some balls!

bplastt
bplastt

Kandi, I realize you and your Mom are close but it does not take a Dr. to realize your happiness does not come 1st to her, hers does.  I am sure that is not her intention but she is probably afraid she will be all alone and maybe you need to let her be alone for a time to realize what alone really is.  You are a grown as* woman and deserve to make your own choices.  I would insist she get therapy or you will have to keep her at a distance.  She even poisons your daughters mind against Todd, NOT COOL!!!  She has something going on but SHE NEEDS to figure it out and then and only then would I accompany her to therapy!!!! When is your time for Kandi?!?! You can't be the best mother you can be ( to your daughter) unless you are happy and this is just total dysfunctional!! I feel for you but you need to stand up to her and you haven't learned how to deal with her yet or this wouldn't be happening!!! I really feel bad but you are ALLOWING THIS BEHAVIOR!!!

goldwing@22
goldwing@22

I think kandi should put her mom in her place, she is to old to act like that. And those 2 aunts looking like little old trolls need to get a life. her mom is only looking out for her own interest, she see's only $$$$$$$ SIGNS! Her mom acts like she's on Prozac or some form of drug, the lady is wacked way out. Kandi, I pray  you go on and marry Todd and let your mom know you have control of your own life, don't allow her to run Todd away.  Use your own judgement and remember what your daughter told you, she  told you her thoughts which were exactly right.

TTV50
TTV50

mama Joyce and her sister need to go. old selfish women that only want Kandis money not her happiness. Set up a allowance for your mom and other freeloading realitives. and move on Kandi. She does not want you to be happy unless it is the 3 of you: You, Mama Joyce and your wallet. How low class to take off her shoe to fight your girlfriend in a bridal salon. Cut the chord Kandi.

Portann
Portann

I guess in Joyce's world being a mother means being a vulgar bully. She came to the bridal salon with her sibling posse in tow to piss on your wedding dress moment with her "i just sucked a lemon" look on her face. So glad your friend stood up to one-shoe Crazytown. Lovely touch hobbling around a bridal salon with a dirty platform shoe in her hand. Classy. She is driven by fear. And yes, she should be afraid, because as you have more and more people who love you for who you are, with genuine love void of any hidden agenda, her agenda and weak to non existing parenting skills become obvious. It is amazing that you  have become such a loving, trusting, beautiful person. Your success is not because of her but  inspite of her.  Despite the fact that she has probably thrown it in your face about how she carried you for 9 months and she is your "momma." Kandi doesn't need a momma, she needs a loving parent. 

housewifegirl
housewifegirl

Kandi, I cannot even watch this episode anymore - with your mom going off on y'all at dinner.  She is just SO rude.  "The manner of which we have been accustomed"?     She is worried about someone else getting your money because she wants it.

n_swanson
n_swanson

Kandi, I commend you for having respect for your mom, however you can not allow your mother to take away your happiness.  Your mom is very selfish and lonely, she will continue to run every man out of your life as long as you continue to give her that power.  Put your big girl panties on and take control of your life.  Your mom will be fine, she'll comply. You have worked hard your entire life and deserve to have someone to love and grow old with.

slskiratko
slskiratko

Kandi the only gold digger in the equation is your MOM.....  Its sad and you need to stand up for yourself....  Sadly the last thing Mama Joyce is being rignt now is a mother... 

summer1964
summer1964

Good Lord, Mama Joyce I had no idea that you were so ghetto...very embarrassing. You're acting like Kandi's petulant, bratty child, not her mother.

ninaboo80
ninaboo80

Mama Joyce need to find Several Seats!!! Cause she is alone Khandi needs to be also and that is not fair to Khandi. Also, Khandi is going to have to stand up to her Mama or she is never going to be happy. 

lisa.lesinszki
lisa.lesinszki

Kandi. Stop being such a big wuss. You are an intelligent woman. If you really want a life with Todd, tell your mother to step off. Have you read any of the comments being made on social media accounts about the Mama Joyce/Todd situation? Do you really think all those people are misunderstanding what's going on? If so, you are blind. All your mom ever talks about is money (yours, not hers, cuz she doesn't have any). You are your mother's meal ticket. You are her magical money tree. She doesn't want Todd taking a slice out of her Kandi pie. Your mom is afraid of losing your money. Bottom line. Tell her you'll keep paying the bills and get married already!  

MsCrabTreeNYC
MsCrabTreeNYC

@Mama Joyce comes off as a silly, ignorant opportunist. If she were REALLY concerned about Kandi's choice, she would stop all of the foolishness and let Kandi live her life.  I think that Joyce is really only concerned about how Todd and Kandi getting married will affect her ability to get what she wants from Kandi. Todd represents another point of view that does not entirely favor Mama Joyce.

 

cheryl1
cheryl1

I just don't understand how allowing your mother to come into your home and be so rude and nasty to someone you care about is respecting her by not saying anything. She obviously doesn't respect you or Todd or your friends. This controlling woman just wants you for her and "the life she's grown accustomed to" You are providing for her or does she provide for herself? You've even given her a home. She should be happy that you've met someone you care for and cares for you

jaxdfax
jaxdfax

Her Mom screeched "he is living off and eating off you!" Pot kettle black. Momma doesn't work in a pie factor and living large. Todd works. So with that set of facts who is the mooch? Momma Joyce needs to stop before a house falls on her. My advice is to Todd...run. Kandi is sweet but weak and you are getting a taste of the hideousness. She wont speak her mind and her Mom acts like that because she is allowed to. Run.

 

KatiainHB
KatiainHB

Oh my. Your mother is so rude. I wouldn't listen to her at all she needs some anger control classes. Kandi I sure hope you are not going to let your mom run your life. She is crazy!

PetraG
PetraG

Wow.  I feel really sad for Kandi.  Aside from personal feelings about mamma Joyce, doesn't mamma J realize that she is telling her daughter that he only wants her for her money. And this is a pattern from what I understand.  Regardless if mamma J can claim she is watching out for her daughter, telling someone something over and over again will result in them believing it.  Especially a mother to her daughter.  I wonder if Kandi feels unworthy of herself over her money. How could this not have even the most accomplished person reaming with uncertainty with everybody?  I wish I could get out of my head Joyce's spout about her not being told to move from her "daughters" house. That just didn't settle right with me. Very pot calling the kettle black kind of thing. Im not going to lie and say Kandi has always been my favorite housewife.  I believe she has been in the thick of things, and I think she'd respect me for saying so. This is very unbelievable to watch a woman as successful as Kandi being torn down by her mother over pictures. Really?  Embarrassing to involve Kandi's minor child by quoting her daughters dislike for Todd on national tv.  Although a big Bravo fan, I don't always respond to the episodes, but obviously this one has shook the house.  Kandi if you are reading this, I wish you peace in the new year. 

Addictd2Bravo
Addictd2Bravo

ok so i just signed up so I can post about Mama Joyce! she is sooo disrespectful! she keeps chasing away Kandi's men, like WTF old lady why u being so bitter? get urself a man of ur own and friends of ur own, Kandi is a grown WOMAN! Mama Joyce just doesn't want her funding to come to an end, she definitely thinks that Todd will take some of her allowance! "A man is a provider"?? then stop relying on ur daughter for your lifestyle and GET YOUR OWN PROVIDER! omg she irritates me to no end. Todd doesn't have to prove anything to her, he is in a relationship with Kandi! Love isn't about whose bank account is bigger....And Kandi is also to blame because she allows it! She's so respectful to her mom but her mom doesn't respect her relationship. She has to tell her mom point blank that its her and Todd in the relationship and she needs to butt out.

Ramp615
Ramp615

Kandi, I know this program is prerecorded but, I hope you get married and live YOUR life. You know what you need to do and what preparations you need in mine if things fail. You only live once. Take some happy memories into your future. Your mom has had her time. I cannot but wonder why don't she have a marriage right now. I BET YOU KNOW....

Arbed10
Arbed10

I was totally in disbelief after watching the  dinner episode with Todd and your mother. He must really care about you because he went over and beyond what most would have to be respectful to our disrespectful mom.  At some point you will need to tell your mom that this is your life, that she needs to live her own life and in doing so she would have less time to live yours. I have never seen anything like your mother, you are a grown woman who has made a very good life for yourself and your daughter and your mom.  Maybe she is afraid that her quality of life will suffer if you are happily married.  Not sure what you can do to reassure her, but you need to make a decisive  move with your mother soon, if you are to keep your man, happy.

AvidRealityWatcher
AvidRealityWatcher

Love does not act in the way that Mama Joyce is acting, it is very sad to watch.  Her actions remind me of those overly possessive people who won't allow you to love anybody but them or those few that they approve.  That she would shame and demean so publicly...is what I don't understand. Even if all of her allegations are true, some things are better left for discussion behind closed doors.

bplastt
bplastt

 @goldwing@22

 I really don't feel like it is all about the money but it manifests itself like that for some reason!!