The RHONJ star says Melissa Gorga meddled in her attempt to reconcile with her brother.

on Jul 16, 2013 - The Dish0

Did you really think things would get any better when the The Real Housewives of New Jersey cast headed to Lake George, N.Y., for a "healing" retreat? If anything, Teresa Giudice and Melissa Gorga's feud is worse than ever—at least according to Teresa.

In her latest blog post, Teresa says she was desperate to re-connect with her estranged brother Joe Gorga—but says it was impossible because his wife Melissa wouldn't stop "meddling." "Every time I tried to get through to Joey, Melissa would whisper in his ear," Teresa writes. "It was beyond frustrating."

While Teresa does not discuss the biggest moment from the episode—the physical fight that erupted between her husband Joe Giudice and brother Joe Gorga—she does open up about her war of words with her sister-in-law.

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Beef No. 1: Teresa is upset that Melissa blames her for talking smack about Melissa when, according to Teresa, she isn't involved. "I have nothing to do with digging up dirt on her," says Teresa. "I could care less about her past."

Beef No. 2: Melissa is a "hypocrite" for telling Andy Cohen that you don't mess with anyone's marriage. She said "that was a line she wouldn't cross," recalls Teresa. "Wow. She just crossed it in this episode. Like ran across it with a Mack truck. I was surprised and sickened by what she said about my marriage."

Teresa also issued a thinly veiled threat: "She is very, very lucky that I'm keeping quiet about the things I do know." Ruh-roh.

PHOTOS: See Pictures of Melissa Gorga Through the Years.

Anyone holding their breath for Teresa to say "I'm sorry" -- most of all Melissa -- should just exhale now, says Teresa. "She keeps trying to beat an apology out of me," Teresa writes. "I'm sorry but I can't apologize for something I didn't do."

At least one thing made Teresa laugh: The moment Melissa dramatically got on her knees to apologize. "Maybe if Melissa got on her knees in front of me before this point, we wouldn't have any of these problems!" Teresa reasoned. "If she was only that humble normally...She only did it to make me look bad. And it did make me mad, but I held it together."

64 comments
Tellit
Tellit

Oh, and Rosie was wrong. Your husband didn't charge first...your hot headed brother is the one who CHARGED.

Tellit
Tellit

Melissa must be getting ready to launch her acting career. Well, good luck. She needs to get off this show. It has become very distressing to watch. I know families have dysfunction...but this takes it to a whole new level. Teresa, you need to ignore Melissa. If it means not being close to your brother, then sorry,he made his choice.

LadyK2507
LadyK2507

Teresa I love you!  I felt very bad for you after what your brother said he is the one that was wrong.  Keep doing what you are doing and not speaking badly against anyone!  Keep working hard and making a good life for you and your family!

threesistersx3
threesistersx3

continued...Richie was just telling Teresa she did not help the situation by getting her husband involved and having the two guys end up fighting.  This could have been avoided (maybe).

But what annoys me is right away - Teresa says that Richie is meddling.  She did the same thing to Kathy tonight.  Anytime anyone tries to tell Teresa she is wrong...she can't admit her part she is always right.  Hopefully, Dr. V will help her see that she has ownership.

pearls44
pearls44

I think you have handled yourself really well under the stress you've had.  Words can hurt for a long, long time.  Your attempts to keep making a relationship with your brother is admirable, and I can see there is love in your heart and good intentions.  What he said to you, well I think it hurt not only you, but people like me who saw that episode.  I felt hurt in my heart for you.

threesistersx3
threesistersx3

Did you notice this evening that the Dr. V told Teresa right away she was foolish and Dumb to hang around people who are talking about her SIL.  But Teresa can never admit that she was wrong.  Isn't this what Joe & Melissa have been saying right along, they are annoyed that she stays around this and in fact makes her part of it by not taking a stand to protect her family.

Let's face it she has a real issue with admitting she has a part in the mess. 

 

I usually don't think Richie is correct but he was right on with Teresa when he told her she should never have run out and get her husband involved.  He was just

Kmk13
Kmk13

Dear Teresa,

  Although you may never even read this post, I hope and pray that you do. First, I just want to say how emotional I got at the end of the RHONJ; seeing you and your brother just crying and holding each other proves to me how deeply you love one another. As one of the team builders said, I believe your passion does in fact do you in, it also can and WILL pull you both through, together.

 

   Now, let me share with you some of my family relationships....Up until I was 13, I had not met my father, or my sister ( his daughter). Meeting them for the first time was the hardest thing I've ever gone through...The battle it was for me ,mentally and emotionally, was horrendous. My father and I fought and went through absences, and spouts of not talking, etc. And although we are still not quite there yet, we are working on it. Anyway, my older sister is everything to me, and our relationship is still not where I am hoping it will be. Knowing that we missed so much of each other's lives; her wedding, graduations, etc., kills me still. But I believe I'm so lucky just to have her, my beautiful niece and nephew, and all of my family, NOW.

 

    You and your brother are so lucky as well, to have each other. There are so many siblings who never even meet, or have a conversations, or are split up with no say, but you both have a say. I know our situations are in no way similar to one another, but I just wanted to share with you, just like you share with me every Sunday. If you take anything at all from this, take this: you are blessed with the family God has given you, with the brother God has given you. Stay strong, stay loyal, always love, and just know how lucky you are!

 

                                                                                                   Best Wishes,

                                                                                                           ~K

 

 

threesistersx3
threesistersx3

Did you notice how the Dr. V right away told Teresa she was foolish and it was dumb to hang around people who were talking about her brother's wife?  Isn't this what Joe and Melissa have been telling her from the beginning?  But Teresa can't see what is wrong with that.  You need a Dr. to tell you to not permit outsiders to talk about your family.  If Teresa took ownership of her p

Diori
Diori

Teresa, you are a smart woman. YOU KNOW pretty well your husband. At the last episode you were coming at him who was outside with Rosie, telling him  " my brother called me a scum".  You knew what it was going to be his reaction, right? So now don't complain about the fight between them because you were the only one who instigated it. Why you didn't say" this is not going to work, just go home?" Come on, Teresa don't play the victim anymore. 

Dasanh06
Dasanh06

Girl I have a sister in law like that.jealous to the core.always trying to turn my brother against me.i feel sorry for you and joe your husbands for having people gang up on you like that.sorry they blam you and can't see their on short comings.spend your time with people who love you.

meg.ohio07
meg.ohio07

I'm typically not into the "commenting" thing, however while watching tonight's episode it is evident that you are trying your best with your brother. It's as if Melissa is quarantining Joe so that no one else can get to him and console him. It's brainwashing and it was sad that her first instinct was to "leave" immediately. Who wouldn't want their husband and his sister to work out their issues? There is something extremely wrong and shady with that picture. Best of luck to you and I have been rooting for you for the whole duration of the show.

monkeylikebanana
monkeylikebanana

You are right about your SIL; and your brother seems embolded by her bad behavior. Let them be. Too bad for your parents but its not your fault; you have tried and tried. Get your juicy Joe (who I believe is misunderstood) and keep him and your girls close.  Team Teresa, all the way.

misslorein@gmail.com
misslorein@gmail.com

Teresa, I forgot to mention that you were awesome on The Apprentice and that you may want to respond individually to some of us on the blog.  Looks like some of your supporters want to make sure that you are listening.  As for me, I have never responded nor attempted to subscribe to ANY blogs, however, I felt the need to let you know that your ARE supported.  Remember, for every naysayer out there that speaks poorly of you, there are twenty that don't bother to let you know that they support you.  I bothered!

misslorein@gmail.com
misslorein@gmail.com

Teresa.  I have always seen you for whom you are and I have defended your stance many times.  I think that Juicy is funny and tells it like it is.  The things that he says are things that all of us think but don't say.  I have never trusted Melissa's dramatics nor do I buy into her "Thank you Jesus" bull-crap.  The hate in her eyes at the retreat was obvious and you could tell, when she was standing by the window glaring at you while you talked to your brother that she has no desire to make things right.

We all know that you have been very uncomfortable with information that could hurt your brother.  I also am sure that you DO want to make this situation right.  I would be upset too if my sister in law told everyone that she wants to move so that your children and marriage don't affect her perfect life.  Any one that brings my children into the mix is looking for a fight.  

That said, your brother assaulted your husband and he didn't even get to defend himself without Melissa trying to claw his eyes out. Then she had the nerve to call you the devil for not getting involved and helping your brother.  Think about this Teresa...doesn't Melissa say that couples should stand by their mates?  If so, why would you try to help Joey when he was trying to hurt your husband?  Melissa sure did show her Ghetto side on this one.  And, why should you help your brother just because Melissa told you too?  You clearly were very upset and knew that you would not be able to stop the mess.  Melissa should realize that if Joey wants to attack someone that he shouldn't put himself into a situation where HE NEEDS HELP!  Furthermore, it appeared to me that Melissa even came at you physically near the end.  That said, she appears to be somewhat frightened by him as well.  Maybe that perfect marriage isn't quite so perfect after all.

The fact that you and Joe are so in sync that you were able to get him to leave with you and not retaliate proves to me that you have a good marriage.

I would have reacted just as you did.  I cringe every time I see Joe's face when Melissa clawed him while he was being attacked by your brother and held back from defending himself by the others.  

We get "Melissa" and "Jaquel".  Keep moving forward and speaking the truth.  To be perfectly honest with you I believe that sometimes you "can" pick your family.  Choose to walk away from the hurtfulness.

Blondie62
Blondie62

Teresa, you really need to rid yourself of Kim D.  She has an intense hating for Melissa so she plays up to you knowing you have issues with her and she antagonizes the situation.  You said the day of the Posche fashion show you never went to that salon so that was a set up, the fashion show was a set up, the dinner with the girls and then lunch with one of your other friends.  On the other side of the coin Joey is your brother if Melissa's past is that sordid he either knows about it and doesn't let it interfere with his marriage or he doesn't care.  You need to step back and let things cool down, the truth will come out in the end.

melinda912
melinda912

Hi Teresa,

    I've written to most of you off and on now for a while. I never played "team" anyone. I just wanted to see you all happy. When I watched this last episode I was so aggravated by the time it was over that I couldn't write to any of you until now..I felt very bad when your brother called

you "scum". The was just terrible, especially since you were the one to arrange this weekend in the first place. Rosie had more enthusiasm to try this route than Melissa did. I know that you were trying to get your husband into the spirit of the weekend, Your brother and Melissa however had chips on their shoulders building. Your brother because of the gym and Melissa's just been boiling over because she feels that you haven't supported her as family when bad things were said about her,

    I truly saw your effort and hope for this weekend. I hope at some point, that you'll be able to TALK to one another before it gets out of hand, There HAS to be some give and take on everyone's part. No more bringing up the distant past's issues, Just work on recent things and that's it. It'll never work unless you do it that way,,too much water under the bridge. You need to let go of things as well as your brother and his wife,  Good Luck Teresa and God Bless

                                                                       Melinda

 

Muffie239
Muffie239

Teresa, you need to sit and watch the episodes alone. Its sad you don't see your mistakes in all of this. You should never let anyone say anything about Melissa. Joe and his wife are a package. You have to love her also. Just like when you got married, you're a package. So if you want to repair your relationship with your brother, then all of the negative people around you, let them go or tell them to stop talking about her. All we ever see Melissa do is how she can make things work with you starting this season with getting the kids together for a play date and your husband started talking about Melissa while your child was in the car. Shame on you and him. He is trash. I would never talk like that or let anyone talk like that in front of my children, especially that age. Is the fame that important? You should put your children first.

Sunny11
Sunny11

I only watch because of you, period.

laura777
laura777

Good luck to you Teresa! Hope you can move forward with your life and keep cordial relationships with your extended family. What I would advice you is to remember that they have shown you who they are, going forward watch your words because they will be misconstrued, don't give more than they deserve and try to preserve the core of who you really are and that is not a catty and spiteful person. The person that you are at the core is one we warm up to and the reason why you have so many people on your corner. Most importantly don't play their game, they are much better at it than you. In the end what I want to say is that they don't deserve to be in your life, you will find that it is more peaceful without them in it.:)

Lizbaby
Lizbaby

I give you a lot of credit for holding it together when ms drama queen got on her knees, she made herself look like a moron. Props to you because when she grabbed your hand and said let me kiss you ring I would have back slapped her. And why should you keep quiet about what you really know about her? She accuses you of everything, why not give her an actual reason!

k.miller
k.miller

I have said all along that if Joe Gorga will treat his sister that way, he is treating his mom, wife and daughter that way. He is disrespectful. And I do see Joe Guidice making a change this time on camera. He is defending his wife, I loved when he came in and said, "You are going to apologize" he stood up like a man should for his wife. And earlier in one episode, he made a joke because he could see how hurt Teresa was and he was trying to lighten the mood. Teresa loves her brother but Melissa is making sure there is room for only one woman and therefore she will ruin it for her own daughter, nieces and precious daughter in laws in the future.

Koopla
Koopla

Teresa you did what any reasonable woman would have done if a fight broke out with two men. You went and got security and you reminded your husband to walk away for the children which he did. I was surprised how nasty your sister inlaw really is. You really are the bigger person who wants the best for your children and parents. I hope your parents don't catch wind of what your brother said about your dads funeral.. that was beyond hurtful.

TeflonDiva84
TeflonDiva84

Teresa I love everything you are trying to do to get your family back together.  Some might say you do not read these comments but I think you do.  I was your fan in season 1-3 season 4 was not so sure because you was going through a lot and I seen you put your pain on other people.  But this season I see you are making a turn for the better and I like it.  Just keep trying and things will come together.  I love how you and your husband work through your problems and it is good to me that you show people that even though your married it's not always cookie's and cream you go through up's and down's but the important part is that you work through them and stick together.  Keep up the good work

biancashines
biancashines

Theresa, i never was your fan.  'til now, i feel like they r all picking on u.  You put your chin up mama's.  

TRachel
TRachel

Stay Strong Tre, you have loyal viewers that see what is happening here, you and Joe need to relax, know that you have done all you can do, I think last season I told you to walk away from trying to fix things you have done enough on your part, it is clear your parents have their issues with your brother that has nothing to do with you, so let him keep pointing the finger at you, he has to live with it. Once you back off then he will be able to thin and see who the problem really is, (Melissa).....................Team TRE!!!!

WCW
WCW

You continue to want peace and reconciliation and that is admirable. Sadly, that will never be achieved as long as your brother allows his wife to poison his mind towards his own family. But you are the old school Italian on this show and when your brother comes home it will be you welcoming and supporting him.

jewellann3
jewellann3

Did anyone notice in the sneak peek last night how after the fight Joe Gorga shoved Melissa off to the side? 

MoB
MoB

What show are these people watching?!?!?! All I have to say is that Karma's a b*itch and she just turned around and came back on you.   Everything's finally caught up with you so you get what you deserve.  I know there's some editing done to the show but do you ever even watch?! Like, really sit there and watch it and look at your actions?!?! I truly think you are under the delusional impression that just because you don't actually throw the rock and hide your hand, you'd rather sacrifice your relationship with your brother/family and sneakingly pass the rock over to one of your puppets who are clearly just using you for an extension of their 5 minutes of fame.  If your family meant that much to you, you would watch the company you keep.  Kim, what's her face is the devil in drag and means you absolutely no good! But nonetheless, birds of a feather flock together right? Where's your loyalty? Didn't YOU say stick with blood.  Oh, you don't quite remember that you say? Because you're too pointing the blame on others.  You need to seriously see a shrink alone and work on yourself doll.  I really feel sorry for you.  Okay, actually....no I don't.  #scum4real!

mary.ward.12327608
mary.ward.12327608

Teresa I am so sad about you and your brother. I think you both have made mistakes and if his wife would stay out of his head, maybe you two could talk and work things out. You have had to face some very tough times recently and you have always kept a smile and for your kids sake , you have kept a positive attitude. I may not agree with some of the things you say or do, however, your brother calling you the names he called you at the retreat was crushing. Right now one of my siblings and I are at odds and its killing me inside. Even though I dont think I am totally wrong for the reason she is not speaking to me, I do accept some of the blame and would gladly say I am sorry....just because that is what she wants to hear. I know you have the best of intentions, but you tend to drag others into the reason you and your brother are where you are....I would just own my mistakes, say I am sorry and see where it goes from there. Keep your head up and just do the best you can. Never give up though...for your parents sake, dont give up. My mom just passed a couple of months ago and that has taught me that our parents are not gonna be here forever, and we have to do things we may not want to do just to give them peace of mind. I admire your husband for taking up for you at the retreat when your brother stooped so low as to call u scum. On the other hand, he is no different then Melissa when it comes to supporting the reconciliation of your brother and you. I would have hate to be in your shoes. You keep on the brave face, and stay strong, and don't give up!! Things will get better, because they can't get much worse.

Houston777
Houston777

 @Tellit Right, because Joe Guidice wasn't headed in there to fight.  Gorga only charged FIRST.  Guidice charged into the room, Gorga beat him to the rush.

threesistersx3
threesistersx3

 @Blondie62 Who cares what the truth is about what Melissa did prior to her marriage.  It is NO ONES business... all the those friends of Teresa and Teresa sound like  middle school girls going into puberty.  Melissa's dating before her husband is not even his business.  Good point - why doesn't she rid herself of Kim D?  and the rest of those trouble makers who spread mean gossip and rumors.

Because Teresa enjoys when anyone can say nasty remarks about her SIL.

Teresa is so foolish - how she expects good things to come from bad is beyond rationale thinking.

 

threesistersx3
threesistersx3

 @Muffie239 Did you notice right away the Dr. V said Teresa was foolish to be with people who talk trash about her SIL - but Teressa will never admit that she

was wrong.  Isn't this what Joe & Melissa have been saying from the start?

 

Blondie62
Blondie62

 @Muffie239

 IDA with the part of having to love Melissa, they just don't get along!  But she needs to respect her as her brother's wife and vice versa.  They will never be besties, but all of this garbage on both girls parts is totally hurtful to both the husbands and the wives.

Muffie239
Muffie239

 @laura777 what show are you watching. They have tried so many times to make thing work with Teresa and she never ever admits her part in anything.  Last sunday she kept talking about Jacqueline and she wasnt at the retreat and shes still blaming everyone else for what happened last season. Teresa should stop putting herself in those situations. If i were trying to repair my relationship with my family, i definitely would not being sitting around people that are talking about my family. So she is the blame for all of the chaos that goes on with their family.

 

Blondie62
Blondie62

 @Lizbaby

 Melissa did that to infuriate Teresa because that is how Teresa acts like she is the "Godmother".  Totally sarcastic even Joey had a smirk on his face, these two women absolutely tried so many times to get along, they do not like each other, end it there.  Melissa never has to see Teresa or her in-laws as long as Joey and the kids do.

Blondie62
Blondie62

 @k.miller

 IA Melissa is making room for just one woman and that woman is her!  Just how many times can she be set up by Kim D. or whoever is doing it?  I say for her to let Teresa be, let Joey and the kids see the Giudices and the Gorgas, they don't like Melissa anyway.

cindy1963
cindy1963

 @k.miller I don't think Joe Giudice is being "nice" to his wife because he has changed in any way, he is doing all of this because he heard it from a lot of people on the way he treated and spoke to his wife last season. I think the way he spoke to her was absolutely disgusting and no man, husband or not should ever say anything like that to a woman! And then he lied to her on top of everything saying that it was an "old family friend" who is a male. Really? Why would he be talking the way he did to a man. Come on, we weren't born yesterday. I think it's bad on both of them that they talk about "adult" situations in front of their children. Those kids know WAY TOO MUCH and they really have no RESPECT  for their aunt. Listening to some of the things that these kids say is really horrible. When I was Milania's age, I would have never even thought about saying "I'm into older men," when she was talking about Gia's BFFL. The innocence that we grew up with is gone in today's world and I really don't find it to be funny or cute to hear a child talk like that and all the parents do is laugh. 

AndyJean
AndyJean

 @WCW

 WCW,  When somebody comes into a setting thinking like Teresa does (that there is no way that she should apologize for the mess she has such a big responsibility for creating), there is no way that reconciliation will happen.  That's because Teresa sees herself as an "elder" deserving of respect because she's, what, a couple of years older than Joe?  The reality is this.  They are contemporaries.  There is no situation of respect expected between siblings.  Yes, I can see it with parents to children, but not sibling to sibling.  And that equally does not apply to "in-laws".  Melissa is Teresa's contemporary.  Plain and simple.  And Teresa is behaving like a simpleton if she has this expectation that Joe should abandon his wife (whom he obviously loves and treats with love) in order to stand up for Teresa when he clearly doesn't agree with Teresa's behavior!

Muffie239
Muffie239

 @WCW Really? Are you looking at the same show as the rest of us? Melissa is not a saint, but a few weeks ago her husband put her in her place also when she went on twitter an made some kind of comment toward Teresa.  Teresa's issue is she bad mouths Melissa to Joe, and I dont blame him for being mad about. When she's with her brother talk about something else.

Muffie239
Muffie239

 @MoB Finally, someone that watches the same show I do. I am so surprised at these people on this blog. It just blows my mind. Teresa is crazy. I think she is jealous of Melissa. Why does she talk about her all the time? 

bravofan12
bravofan12

 @MoB

 why should not she talk to Kim D? After all didn't JoeGo apologize to Kim d? Where's his loyalty when not defending and allowing all these trashy people to talk bad about her? His own blood, right?  I guess it's okay to bad mouth his sister but not his wife.  I think deep down inside JoeGo..is angry because he knows it's the truth everything being  said about Melissa..and his hurt turns into anger towards the people who know the truth....

cahilla
cahilla

 @MoB

 She gets ganged up on week after week...they all trash her behind her back. That last reunion show said it all. Every one of them were against her.

 

Curtsfan
Curtsfan

@mary.ward.12327608 Come on!!!! Your upset that Teresa's brother called her scum, yet you don't say anything about her husband calling her the c word? Joe Guidice has never supported Teresa & her brother reconciling. He has call Melissa names on air, and has no problem discussing how Melissa is responsible for keeping Teresa & Joe apart in front of the children. Even when Gia makes unflattering comments about Melissa, Teresa just smiles and you can see how she relishes the fact that her daughter is turning on her aunt.

terryreed123
terryreed123

 @Muffie239  @laura777 I totally agree with you Muffie 239.  It amazes me that anyone could think that Teresa is trying to make anything better.  She continues to talk about her brother's wife and blames her for turning her brother against her.  But, she continually turns her husband against her brother and everyone else.  Teresa never takes any responsibility for anything.  I think she is a borderline personality.  Stating is simply, there are two types of people, the personality disorder and the neurotic. The neurotic says "it's my fault." The personality disorder says "it's your fault." One takes responsibility for their behavior and the other doesn't. The neurotic will take responsibility for a problem and can try to fix it. The personality disorder will unconsciously or consciously blame others for their predicaments and wish the world would stop screwing them. In business, the neurotic will work with you, admit mistakes and may try to fix problems. The personality disorder will blame others in their organization for their misfortunes and can hold grudges. 

Lizbaby
Lizbaby

@Muffie239 @laura777 muffin what show are you watching?

lazyladyevelyn
lazyladyevelyn

 @Muffie239  @laura777 what show are you watching?  when did they try to work things out with her?  It's always Teresa that's making the move.

batterynotincluded
batterynotincluded

 @AndyJean  @WCW glad someone else sees that! 

   There can't be reconciliation when Theresa will never, ever own any of her own words and behaviors and continually plays the victim.

lazyladyevelyn
lazyladyevelyn

 @Muffie239  @WCW And vice versa, Muffie.  Joe bad mouths her husband in front of Teresa.  They both bad mouth each other's spouse.