Chanel Omari

Chanel reflects on her difficult talk with Erica.

on Jun 30, 20130

A couple of words to describe this episode off the tip of my tongue: "hilarious," "Jewish comedy for sure," "heartfelt," and "confusing." 

I have to say my fav part of this episode was when Amanda took me out and got my inner "Coco" out! I love to dance when I am sad. I don't like to dwell on my misery and always like to find a way to amuse myself, so I can keep positive and move forward because life is all about moving forward. 

I was so embarrassed by that lap dance and realized it was an intense and intimate moment, which was inappropriate behavior I portrayed, and I apologize for that if I have offended anyone, especially my family and closest friends. 

It really hurt me when Erica didn't show up because I really needed to be assured all my girls were there for me, just like I always make sure to be there for them. I saw Erica's partying and drinking was causing her not to feel well and make excuses to me, which was really hard for me to accept, and I wanted to help her get back on track. Sometimes, we need the ones we love to yank us back into reality. I just want what's best for Erica and for our friendship, and I can't continue a close one with her If she will continue to hurt me and not show up to important things close to my heart. It makes me confused as to what to do. I am such a carefree loving person that I don't want to confront her or even get down on her about it, but I am too good of a friend to pretend everything is OK when it's not, and sometimes part of being a princess is helping your friends even if they don't think they need your help! 

Casey was very brave and bold for coming. That's why she is so inspiring. It takes a big person like her and a true mensch to entertain this. She did it for the best of Erica and the potential well-being of their friendship and others. Erica knows we all love and care for her and just want the best for her, but she also needs to know the truth and how her actions have hurt people. None of us are perfect, but we all need to work on ourselves. All I did was try and be there for her, and I tried to say it to her without sounding offensive, so it might have sounded like gibberish, but she knew what we were talking about, and it was one of the hardest things I ever had to deal with when it came to dealing with friendships! I hope things get better, and I pray every day for all my friends to have good health, success, and happiness.

Until next time, follow me @chanelomari 

Xo

42 comments
SouthernBelles5
SouthernBelles5

Chanel , You are such an awesome person inside and out.If I had a brother I would be making him find you! Hang in there girl cause I know true love is on its way!!!! It will be YOUR wedding we will be watching next season : )

astoria1
astoria1

Do not get serious with the best man. He is not for you!

Raymi1316
Raymi1316

Even though I stated earlier that I thought you can't dance and that you needed to "chill" when it comes to getting married, I feel bad because I think you are such a SWEET, SWEET girl and your intentions with everyone are so wonderful! You are probably the nicest "princess" on the show and I think you just want everyone to be happy!! I know you will find a wonderful man someday! Just HAVE FUN in the process and keep being your FABULOUS "COCO" self! :)

sexyglockgirl
sexyglockgirl

I absolutely love you, never change! you are an amazing person and I know that there is someone out there for you and when it happens it'll be worth the wait!

withak
withak

Chanel, You are a young and beautiful woman. Stop lamenting the fact that you are not married yet. Feel extremely lucky that you are not with that awful Michael. You dodged a bullet on that one. If you would stop worrying about finding love and just let it come to you. I met my husband of seventeen years when I least expected it and I thank God I waited for a good one! Relax and enjoy your youth! Happy people attract happy people. Desperation is not a good look!

hauteaugust
hauteaugust

You are lame. Your jealousy of your sister is so evident and thinking that you and Casey have the right to talk to Erica is beyond me -- 

SBreeze
SBreeze

Chanel, you are great. Don't let others bring you down. You are too young to have worries about finding Mr. Right. Stay fun!

syber
syber

I've never in my life seen such a group of desperate women.  And yet you choose to put yourselves on TV for the world to see?  I'm embarrassed for all of you.  Really.

homesick4louisiana
homesick4louisiana

Chanel, you seem to have sense and a good attitude. No need to apologize for having fun. If ppl don't like it then they can turn the channel. As far as Erica, sometimes u have to step back & just pray 4 them. At least u and Casey planted a seed in Erica  about her drinking that I pray takes root in her.

trace1919
trace1919

I just wanted to hear from you since you seem to be a good friend and sweet person

Mojomel
Mojomel

Ms. Chanel you are fabulous!!!!!

Realligirl
Realligirl

Open up to guys in other religions, there are a lot of nice guys out there that aren't Jewish. You never know if they fall in love with you they might convert. I have many friends who are different religions and respect each other. You just have to make sure which religion the kids are going to be before you put a ring n it. Peace and good fortune to you.

opusv
opusv

All of you need to get a job and move into your own homes and grow up! Disgusting group of "girls".

kiki16
kiki16

You are such a sweet girl!! I wish you well!!

bryan
bryan

OMG Chanel, I can't believe what just happened on tonight's episode. You are not in high school anymore. You are acting out because of your insecurities. Get therapy or get a hobby, anything that will help you get control of yourself.

Cubilly
Cubilly

Just want you to know as I watch tonight's episode that you are a strong, brave, beautiful woman who happens to be 27 and unmarried.  I am a 34 year old whose culture has girls marrying in their early 20's and I feel as if I am on an island by myself with everyone giving me the "don't worry...you will get married...one day" sympathy look.  I get it girl...but don't let that define or ruin the moments you are having every day!  If I can survive at 34 and still am hopeful for that guy to come along, you have have faith too lady!  Bless you Chanel!

DenisenVerdant
DenisenVerdant

I hope I am wrong (I'm usually not!) but it appears you only really noticed she "needed" this intervention when she didn't go to your "poor me" celebration. I hope you were sincere in your desire to help your friend. BTW you usually don't bring your friend's enemy to "help" your friend. 

Jeseylicious
Jeseylicious

Casey is a mess and unhappy person. She's trying to have all of you turn your backs on Erica. She's bad influence.

Tjjoanna
Tjjoanna

You are my favorite! Love watching you dance and when u do ur mom impressions. My favorite mom impression was when you were talking about if you brought the Irish guy with the Mohawk home...lmao!

Shelley_Canada
Shelley_Canada

You are a very caring Princess.  You were raised well and it shows.

bravoluv33
bravoluv33

I do agree that it wasn't Casey place to go talk with Erica because I'm not convinced that Casey is coming from a place of love.  Don't worry about not having a guy right now because you're so young and you have plenty of time to settle down. Enjoy life and don't worry because the right guy will come along when you least expect it. 

Susan19514
Susan19514

You're definitely my fave cast member. It's nice to have someone be the voice of reason on the show. I have a feeling that Joey will be ripped a new one during the reunion (if there is one). Shady boots, for sure!

beebee321
beebee321

You need to realize that Casey isnt Erica's friend, so discussing Erica's behavior with Casey is just gossiping.  Casey will find any reason to talk smack about Erica and you gave her another opportunity.  I like my friends to be there for me too and Id be mad if they flaked on me, but it was one night and you were going out drinking.  You cant be concerned someone is drinking too much and also for not coming out drinking at the same time.  A real concerned friend would be more understanding about her flaky behavior, and actually worried why she feels sick all the time and drinks too much.  If my friend had a problem with alcohol and flaked on me Id be calling them or coming over alone or with another friend and really talk about it directly.  Your intervention was confusing because Casey was there, Erica isn't going to open up with someone who gives her the stink eye all the time.  Its important for people with addiction to be confronted by people who love them, because they need to know the concern is coming from a loving place not judgmental place.  You wouldn't want someone like your ex's 19yr old to show up at your house and tell you she is concerned about your mental health since you got hurt b/c it would sound bitchy and fake.  Casey sounded bitchy and fake at the intervention.

evestar50
evestar50

I do not think you were wrong in trying to confront Erica with her obvious substance abuse problem.  I also believe there is more involved than alcohol.  Some viewers seem more concerned regarding Casey's involvement in the intervention than they do towards Erica's batcrap craziness!  It blows my mind.  In addition, the fact that Erica's mother poo-poo'd your concerns was quite telling.  Perhaps if Erica's father had been told why you were there the reponse would have been very different.  It seems that Erica's father has already voiced his concern a couple of times regarding Erica's drinking.  The mother seems to be in la-la land and maybe they both have the same problem? Who knows?

Anyway,  I can't relate to ANY of your lives.  I'm an upfront, aware, direct parent, plus I was out of the house when I was 16 years-old so, I was independent and rarely involved my parents in my business.   

JMRN
JMRN

Explain how it was "brave and bold" for Casey to go with you? She does NOT like Erica at all. She was the last person to be there with you. Bad move Chanel.

sonnsie
sonnsie

It doesn't seem very logical that Casey would be chosen to be included in the intervention of Erica but the unexpected seem to happen on these shows.  I feel that Erica is out of control when she drinks and perhaps someone needs to say something.  I am surprised that Erica mother sided with her about her behavior when drinking and talked about the girls who was there to help. As her mother it would seem like she would at least ask Erica how she behaves when she is drinking  Erica mother .      

LuvMyYorkie
LuvMyYorkie

Well dear girl it was a clumsy attempt at best but it was heartfelt and very sweet.  I hope she has gotten help with her drinking problem.  It is really sad to see how old she looks compared to the rest of you young ladies and that is solely due to her lifestyle choices. I thought it was very kind of Casey to go with you.  All in all it was a very entertaining episode...and your apology is accepted for acting your age and doing something sort of naughty! LOL

NameChange
NameChange

I really lost respect for you in this episode, for your poor judgment in inviting someone who hates Erica to "intervene."  Do you really not see that???????

 

moe_greene
moe_greene

Casey should have said, "Thanks but no thanks." It was strange she went along, but she actually believed she could help.  Chanel is a caring loyal friend, but with some friends, you have to let them work on their problems and call it a day.  

terra
terra

Why did you bring Casey? That was not very smart or something a friend would do.

shysharon
shysharon

I don't agree with LornaB AT ALL! You are a pleasure to watch and though I'm not a princess, this nice Jewish girl loves this show!

Lck
Lck

You said "sometimes we need the ones we love to yank us back to reality".. How does that describe Casey being involved? That was a bad move. You needed to bring Joey, or someone that cares about Erica. Plus, Joey is direct.. That was the most vague intervention anyone ever saw.

Flana
Flana

Totally inappropriate to bring Casey along. She's not Erica's friend and really is still holding a grudge.

Cards
Cards

I understand that you were hurt by Erica, but you should have talked to her as a friend directly. Casey was not "brave and bold" she was judgmental and out of line. She wanted to go continue to make Erica feel bad and she succeeded with your help. 

Karianne
Karianne

Seriously? You allow Erica to be attacked at your Shabbat dinner. You didn't have an iota of sympathy for her feeling ill. Instead it was all about YOU and your pathetic pity party and you bashing her because she didn't rush to your side to go out drinking and partying with you. Then you turn around and drop in at her house uninvited to set her up to be confronted by someone who hates her about her drinking and partying? Interventions are done by people who love and care about someone, not by someone who hates them. With friends like you who needs enemies? You are a piece of work.

LornaB
LornaB

Wow, I find you to be a very sad girl, that's desperate for attention for men and her friends. You're almost 30, you need to grow up, stop calling yourself a princess or worse yet a JAP, which is not only offensive, it's not true, except in your mind. You are all very pathetic, I feel bad for you, I'm glad only watch this to fall asleep.

Anne0
Anne0

You're a great person - friend & daughter. Move to  Baltimore!

 

shanlea
shanlea

 Casey was not the person to go to Erica's. Your indirect approach was not effective. But love and admire you both. Erica is by far my least favorite - especially after insulting someone who is far more accomplished, with a better work ethic.  She seems like nothing more than a lush and a sponge off her parents, with nothing to contribute.

homesick4louisiana
homesick4louisiana

 @kuuipo

 Ya can't meet a good man in a bar or club! All they want is to get drunk and get laid.  Although I agree that it's way too soon 4 Chanel to panic about not being married. Love always seems to find u when ur not looking 4 it!

Karianne
Karianne

 @sonnsie It doesn't seem logical to me that there is so much concern about Erica's drinking and partying but her friends keep planning night's out DRINKING and partying. Chanel and the others bash Erica for not showing up for the brunch and then set her up for a ridiculous "intervention" by someone who hates Erica. Meanwhile, the entertainment at the brunch is a DRINKING game. Chanel totally dismisses the fact that Erica is ill and bashes her for not rushing to her side while she is having a pity party and not joining her and Amanda for an evening of DRINKING and partying. Sorry, I don't buy all of the "concern" about Erica's drinking. 

Jeseylicious
Jeseylicious

@homesick4louisiana @kuuipo YES YOU CAN homesick4louisiana. Maybe you have bad experience with guys at clubs. I met my hubby at a club. He's non drinker non smoker. We've been happily married for 22 years. We have 4 beautiful children and I'm the luckiest woman in the world.