Derek J.

Derek J. would have been hitting the strip club along with the ladies.

on Mar 12, 20130

I was glad to see that after the small hiccup, the girls stormed Vegas and had a good time bonding. Shout out to Cynthia for all that midday DRAG too!

I can't end this without talking about this week's installment of the Donkey vs. Stallion battle. Was Phaedra wrong for mentioning Walter when Kenya orally engaged her strawberry? Either way, once again, the ish hit the fan. I hope they got it out this time, or at least can wait to bring it on the reunion.

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gjsimon3256@gmail.com
gjsimon3256@gmail.com

Derek J,

I love you....But I do feel that you are team Kandi.  Especially when you went back and told Kandi that Kenya was coming out with a stallion fitness video.  Then Kenya called Phaedra and told her about it.  I really felt that Kandi was being two faced.  The only reason Phaedra is kissing up to Kandi is because she has a lot of money. 

FlutterBy
FlutterBy

Dereek J you asked if it was wrong for Phaedra to mention Walter at the bite of the strawberry, and had to respond....that was a pretty classic mean girl comment in light of the past shows showing the breakup of Walter and Kenya.....I was really surprised Phaedra said that, because I had considered her more classically mature....I am always amazed at certain comments and antics just to make sure the scene does not end up in trash....it seemed like between that comment and then the one about Walter coming to Porshas party....it had become obvious someone had made Kenya the target.....In my opinion, the Vegas trip was a disaster....none of them could sync....always out of sync with each other over something.....

beth.murphy3
beth.murphy3

Kenya needs to get a life....apparently you do not have to be intellectual to be Miss USA!

corian48
corian48

Yeah Phaedra was wrong for the Walter crack. They were all wrong for bringing it up repeatedly but gotta remember this is TV not "real" life.

Whatistheworldcomingto
Whatistheworldcomingto

I agree! Why not go to a male strip club? Scared your men wouldn't like it? Kandi, Phadra, NeNe, answer me that! Who wants to boobs and legs open if you are straight? Make it rain on men and leave Porsha alone!!!!!

arrion.norment
arrion.norment

Why would a woman FEEL COMFORTABLE GOING TO A SAME SEX STRIP CLUB? That's Gay ALL DAY!

angel367
angel367

I’m trying to figure out why did any of you want to go see women strip?  What’s next? 

Myjjis@5
Myjjis@5

I hope you stay on the show...  You make me laugh

lena.scott.739
lena.scott.739

Porsha made the right decision for what is best for her marriage. She has to live with Cordell.  Personally, I would not want to hear a lecture from him. He seems to love a soap box.

sunnysideup@55
sunnysideup@55

Phaedra is such an idiot at this point.  First off, after the misinterpretated perception she made about Jesus and the reason for his interest in brothels and prostitution, she was dishing her newfound relationship with Porsha .I don't know what type of preachers Phaedra's parents are, but I  know that they are not ones that I would follow.  tI appears that Phaedra's concept of the ideal marriage is one where the woman is the head of the household financially and therefore makes all the decisions in the marriage. Let's face it, Phaedra is the man of the house and supposedly the wiser of the two,  which gives her the ups on keeping a hold on Apollo.

Roro5614
Roro5614

How old are they again, to be successful women, why do you all still act like High School girls.  Can't y'all all just get along even after the editing.

1. Wrong for showing up late to dinner

2. Phaedra check your Christian handbook (bible) how much witnessing did you do, in the strip club? (edit it out I guess)

3. Cynthia, SMH! , nice work though on the pagent

4. Kenya, Really though your part or theatrics is getting OLDDDDD

5. Kandi, you have grown, looking forward to hear you and Marvin Sapp

6. Porsha, love on your husband and marriage how you see fit, no one on the show have room to talk except what we know openly about NeNe because of what she been through and I felt that should have taken place between the two of you.  However, what you agreed to to get married is what your husband was expecting to receive. Never say what your willing to do just to get married and then can't pull it off, its not fair to yourself , just for a ring and clout if that is not  what your really wanted on the inside.

Constance1
Constance1

Porsha's marriage is Porsha's business. I get the distinct impression that her discomfort with the strawberry scene and strip club attendance is being used to attack her sensibilities if for no other reason than to make fun of her. Frankly, she has more courage in standing her ground than all of the others who would have easily given in to the bullying. Derek, you too are guilty of being catty just like the women. Shame

fillie87
fillie87

i love phaedra,  but she was wrong for bringing up walter. 

purpleprincess1
purpleprincess1

Derek J,

you should have been the one to go on the girl's trip instead of Kenya. i think porscha just didn't want to go to the strip club because she didn't want to go she should have been a woman about it and said so instead of using her religion or husband as an excuse. anyway i can't wait to see what happens at the reunion. bravo should set up a boxing ring so phadrea and kenya can duke it out. I don't know about anybody else  but i'd pay money to see that!!!

 

Siddy4
Siddy4

Porsha crazy as hell you going to Vegas since your hubby let you & then don't want to experience the Vegas night life ... Well you think you would say before y'all go on the trip alright I'm going on the trip but "I" don't do that crazy strip club scene ... Not sit here at last min and make a big deal bout it & then say I'm Christian & this and that ... Like wth just go in sit down support your friends & live a little n Vegas... It's like why not get the whole experience... I don't do strip clubs but if I'm on a vaca & my friends wanna do something that don't interest me i would still go... But I mean my hubby don't mind me having fun with my friends either & he is the king of my castle but babbbbbeeee I'm the queen of the castle too... 7yrs strong in this marriage & 1 thing is for sure a marriage is 50/50...

myinfo
myinfo

I am a woman and I have no desire to see woman strip.  But, if everyone else was going I probably would have went and just found a chair and sat down far away from the action.

 

I would have preferred to have gone to see the Chippendales or Thunder down Under!

 

Of all the things Vegas has to offer this is what they came up with.

EloiseM
EloiseM

Derek J....YOU ARE TOO FUNNY!    Can't wait to see your new how.   Is it all about fashion or will there be segments from the beauty salon?    JUST CAN't WAIT!!! 

ayala622
ayala622

 @third_sis50 These ladies are  grown & out of their parents home,  Having fun is part of life....I enjoy watching Phaedra & Kandi with minimum drama...

ache.williams
ache.williams

I didn't know there were a such thing as "gossip song", thought they were gospel songs.  But here's something for you, WE ALL FALL SHORT OF HIS GLORY.  Phaedra and Kandi are adults and their fathers are no longer responsible for their actions.  Do you know how many preacher daughters are stripping, having sex before marriage, alcoholics, and drug addicts to say the least.  We all say how our children were raised and should know better.  You see it's people like Kandi and so many others that GOD wants to spread his word because you can't have TESTIMONY without having a TEST.  Mary, Mary who has a reality tv show had male strippers at their younger sister bridal shower. 

ache.williams
ache.williams

Phaedra was 100% wrong but Kenya is 52, I mean 42 years old.  You can't expect for everyone to cut tides with whom they have develop a friendship with.  In all honesty Kenya actually pushed Walter away.  You can't pressure a man into marrying you.  She's truly pathetic.  When she found that Walter would be at Peter's event, she got an escort but when she didn't have anyone on her arms  to try and make him jealous at Kandice housewarming, as always she cried wolf.  He all of sudden became a stalker (and I don't have my security with me).  I don't think he's gay but I do believe that there's some truth to the rumor that he and Kenya dated years before the show and when they decided to cast her on HOA, he was called to "play" her boyfriend.  I wouldnt slept with you in Anguilla either - probably was a setup to get knocked up and then Walter have to deal with your azz for the rest of his life.   

FlutterBy
FlutterBy

@angel367 That is the 64 Million dollar question with all the male revues in Las Vegas....it is a bachelorette party favorite for all the naughty things women can do before they get married...but also have girls weekend shows for women 40ish that do not want to see guys their sons age.....had it been me, I would have preferred cirque de soliel....or a dog trick show or maybe even a cheesy magician show....after that I would have hit as many wedding chapels wearing my fuschia colored bridal veil party gag...to see if any couples needed me and my friends attendance at their quick nuptials...it is something I have done in the past with friends...and you would be surprised how many people appreciate that gesture....I am in at least 25 strangers wedding photos....and then I would have settled at a slot machine with a bottle of tequila to pass the rest of the night away...these women had all these options but decided to go watch women with legs in the air without a care....

macnmac
macnmac

 @sunnysideup@55 I was really surprised with Phaedra's  response. And she was really hot with it and the worse part had it all wrong.

Porsha is newly married and a husband and wife both have to respect each other wishes. I think Porsha herself would not go to the club and used Kordell as an excuse but I think her and Kordell are on the same page with this situation.  She would never go herself and he would never want her too. Either way it was not for anyone on that bus to interfer in her decision. Nene is the one that is too bossy and controlling of the women. I am glad Porsha stood up to them all.

DiabbieJa
DiabbieJa

@sunnysideup@55 This post is so disturbing. While I am no fan of Phaedra's, women should not be faulted for making money. This idea that there is one head of household goes back to a time when a woman's sphere was the domestic one, and it was not valued. Today, some women are making as much money as men or even more, and that is fine because this trend is only going to increase. The ideal marriage is one where both parties come together on equal footing, and money should not determine that footing. If men, such as Apollo, are staying with women for the money, are women who are in relationships with men who are financially more successful staying just for the money? Misogyny really has no place on this site Shame on you!

Ittbittit
Ittbittit

@fillie87 I love Phaedra for bringing up Walter. Kenta claims to be classy and intelligent, however she can't control herself when Phaedra and Porsha say anything that she doesn't like. She loses it and it is so revealing. You show what you are made of when the pressure is applied.....Kenya is basically "Hood".

Constance1
Constance1

@robynsf Hoorah for Phaedra, that was perfection! Kenya really needs to crawl back to Detroit. I know that any day now we're going to hear of Kenya's money woes and impending bankruptcy. I believe she has very serious financial troubles and that's the primary reason she attacked Phaedra over the video rejection. She was desperately counting on that deal and $$$$. Sounds like Sheree all over again.

Constance1
Constance1

@purpleprincess1 Happy to admit I am team Phaedra! Kenya and her poor behavior just reinforces the typical stereotypes attributed to African Americans. She needs to go.

mizpeach
mizpeach

 @Siddy4 Why should she go if she doesn't want to go?  The other women are the ones that made a big deal of it.  They could have said, "Oh you don't want to go?  See you in the morning."  But they turned it into an issue.  They should be ashamed of themselves.  They were being catty bullies.  NOT a good look.

Ittbittit
Ittbittit

@Siddy4 Marriage is not 50/50.....marriage is give and take. Once you get into measuring ....you lose.

FlutterBy
FlutterBy

@ache.williams You need to get that backspace key fixed....when you make a mistake, it is easier to just backspace and start again.....but you know that...right? I know you aren't trying to insult by age association.....noooo you wouldn't do that

ntarver
ntarver

 @macnmac  @sunnysideup@55  @55 Me too. I agree with you. Porsha didn't want to go anyway. I wouldn't want to go and hate those scenes when they are there. I don't think strip clubs are cool and just fun entertainment. I'm not with that.

joann.keystheus
joann.keystheus

 @macnmac  @sunnysideup@55  @55

 I love Porsha, she is for real.  She also is not "Dumb", as some of you like to say.  What goes on between her and her husband, is nobodys business, and all of the ladies, were way out of line.  Not any of them know what friendship means, especially "Team Nene and Kenya".

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

macnmac
macnmac

 @DiabbieJa  @55 I don't think anyone is faulting women for making money. I can see what is called role reversal of the women working and the men running the home and caring for the children and managing as women do when the man works.  I don't see that going on here.  Parents don't want their children to grow up to be slackers so how can any parents enforce that if one parent is a slacker too.

 

 

debharrington
debharrington

 @Ittbittit  @fillie87 that's because they are coming from a place of hurt when they bring up Walter. They just want to see Kenya squirm and that is wrong.

Roro5614
Roro5614

 @robynsf  @Siddy4   I commend Porsha for holding her grown and she's young, and she vowed to be submissive to her husband which is a Christian principle.  However submissive can be taken too far.  Per the show Kordell does seem a bit controlling I pray its all editing but that is hard to believe.  I think women should respect any woman who gives props to what her husband wants and who is to say Kordell does not do the same for her (not shown).  As for traveling with gfriends, we (my besties) always try to do things that we all can enjoy so no one feels left out, never do we make someone feel pressured to try something they don't feel comfortable with and we still have a great time.  So I have to friendly disagree that peer pressure at this age is okay when someone just does not want to to what the crowd wants to do.  That person should be respected and the rest go on or make a compromise but never make a friend feel bad.  ooops they are not really friends though are they.... LOL

gjsimon3256@gmail.com
gjsimon3256@gmail.com

 @debharrington  @Ittbittit  @fillie87 I agree with that and none of them can talk.  Apollo goes to the strip club and Kordell is controlling.  They have problems at home with their husbands and that's why they mess with Kenya.  If I were her, I would throw it back at them about their husbands.  There's alot to say about both  Apollo and Kordell.